The Lovin' Ain't Over
by Ralph & Barbara Alterowitz
Now that you understand a little better some of
the basic physiology and psychology of arousal,
and the reality of aging and prostate cancer
treatment, it's time to look at how you can move forward with a fulfilling sex life. In this chapter, we'll talk
about two different methods for enhancing sex, which
can be combined for a great loving experience: 1) relearning loving, and 2) home remedies. Commercial
therapies and medications will be discussed in Chapter 5.
The reality is that older men generally no longer get
aroused at the mere thought of a woman in their arms or
at the sight of one that would have "turned them on" in
Even before therapy, most of us had become used to
our partner, to the things we did when we made love,
and to the environment-doing it in the same place and at
the same time. On the one hand, such familiarity can
make for wonderful loving because you know each
other's likes and dislikes. On the other hand, too much
repetition of same-style lovemaking can lead to boredom.
When sex becomes a routine event, partners may become
less interested. This decreasing interest may coincide
with the changes we experience with aging.
Let's admit it: many of us had a lukewarm love life
even before prostate cancer treatment. So how do you
rekindle the fire ಋ or, if you have it, how do you make sure
it does not go out?