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The Lovin' Ain't Over
by Ralph & Barbara Alterowitz


Chapter 4
Regaining Intimacy

Now that you understand a little better some of the basic physiology and psychology of arousal, and the reality of aging and prostate cancer treatment, it's time to look at how you can move forward with a fulfilling sex life. In this chapter, we'll talk about two different methods for enhancing sex, which can be combined for a great loving experience: 1) relearning loving, and 2) home remedies. Commercial therapies and medications will be discussed in Chapter 5.

Relearning Loving

The reality is that older men generally no longer get aroused at the mere thought of a woman in their arms or at the sight of one that would have "turned them on" in the past.

Even before therapy, most of us had become used to our partner, to the things we did when we made love, and to the environment-doing it in the same place and at the same time. On the one hand, such familiarity can make for wonderful loving because you know each other's likes and dislikes. On the other hand, too much repetition of same-style lovemaking can lead to boredom. When sex becomes a routine event, partners may become less interested. This decreasing interest may coincide with the changes we experience with aging.

Let's admit it: many of us had a lukewarm love life even before prostate cancer treatment. So how do you rekindle the fire ಋ or, if you have it, how do you make sure it does not go out?


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