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Looking Back
Libido and Arousal Are Two Different Things
Keith, on libido and arousal...
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And, given the fact that I'm now fifty-six years old, I might
have been in this exact place anyway, even without my prostatectomy.
Gin, on libido and arousal . . .
For a couple of years, the timing of what Keith called his
"loss of desire" puzzled me. I was confused by why, if it was going
to occur, it didn't happen immediately after his prostatectomy?
But, lately, this inconsistency doesn't trouble me as much.
I've learned to accept the fact that, when it comes to impotence, or to any medical condition really, the exception is the rule.
No two people will react in the same way to their condition. Nor is
there any prescribed course to follow. Consequently, I now accept
the timing of Keith's loss as "his" timing.
Additionally, I used to question just what exactly happened
to cause Keith's libido and arousal to diminish? After all, he wasn't
on any medication or taking any treatment that might affect him,
nor is he a diabetic. So what could it be? Then I thought about the
times I've "lost" my own libido—times when I didn't feel well, was
sad, tired, or even too busy to think of sex. There was no logical
explanation for my "loss," either.
So for the time being, I'm not worrying about the why anymore. Instead I'm content to just enjoy the moment and our times
together, and let the sexual mysteries remain mysterious.
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